You've seen him, you like him, you want to get to know him better. So what's next? Well, you could go on as though you were in the 1880s and sit around and wait (and wait) for him to ask YOU out. OR you could do the girl power thing and ask him out yourself. But, how? Asking a guy out is a situation that can be quite embarrassing; but with a bit of forward planning, it can be done with minimum awkwardness and hopefully, a top result!
Rule Number 1 - DO YOUR HOMEWORK
No, we're not talking your maths homework; we mean your boy research! Find out everything you can about your potential date and use it to your advantage. Knowing his name would be a good start. Finding out his friends and where they all usually meet will also help. Get your friends to subtly find out if he's interested in you too. Getting all the information will help you know how to ask him out, what you can suggest you do and most importantly of all, find out if you're in with a chance of success. Of course, ensure first that he does not have a girlfriend and that he does know that you exist! Also, make sure you do have something in common; else it will be a failure before it even begins!
Rule Number 2 - KEEP IT CASUAL
So you've identified your target and established that he's single and potentially interested. Now's the time to make your move! First, get to know him and also, gain access into his group. Then, try to get a little close to him without being too obvious. It is very important that you keep things casual. Getting in his face and directly asking him to go for a movie with you and then staring at him while he's pressurised into stuttering out an answer isn't the best way. Why not wait for the right opportunity in the conversation and then drop the invite in casually? When he says he can't wait to see the next animated movie, take your chance and say something like, 'Oh, yeah, me too. We should go..." If he looks keen and/or expresses positive interest, then go in for the kill and either says something like "How about this weekend'. If you are not comfortable with that, then message him later with firmer plans.
Rule Number 3 - PLAN WHAT TO SAY
If you specifically want to ask him out, rather than wait for your opportunity, have a plan. Rather than just mumbling 'hey, we should go out sometime...' why not try something like 'Do you like bowling? How about going this weekend?' Again, you can do it face to face or via your phone but it's probably best to only try this tactic if you're pretty certain he's interested. Suggest something you know he'll go for. If he's not into chick flicks, he's probably not going to want to check out the latest romantic movie fest with you (save that for your fourth date or so!) Instead go for something you know he's into. This equals more chance of success! Go for it!
Rule Number 4 - KNOW WHEN TO WALK AWAY
So despite all your research and best laid plans, he says No. Don't worry about it! Guys go through this kind of rejection time after time (after all, it's normally them who have to do the asking out) so hold your head up high and move on. Chances are that even though he didn't want to go on a 'date' date with you, he'll still be really happy to have been asked so you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. Move on and don't worry about it.
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